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Preparing for success
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C H A P T E R 4

PREPARING FOR SUCCESS

Tower of Conviction 5: We must raise our child consistent
with how he or she will have to become
to be successful in the real world.

Children must comply with rules of social order to be civilized. I have included some of the most basic rules here and have called them catchy concepts. These catchy concepts accomplish the following: (1) They give you relaxed ways of guiding your children; (2) they put more responsibility for the outcomes on your children; and (3) they keep your children consistent with how they will have to become to be successful in the real world.

Catchy Concept 1: If you are rude to the suppliers, you shouldn't
expect new supplies.

This concept is a fact of life out in the real world. To be consistent, it should be a fact of life in your home as well.
If your children grow up and act rudely toward the employers who supply them with jobs, they will be strongly chastised or fired (left without jobs supplied).
If your children grow up to be rude to the neighbors who supply them with loaned tools, the tool supply will be shut off.
Logic says, "If you are rude to the producers, production will stop." Then stop producing if your kids are rude to you!
Don't set your kids up to fail later in the adult world by allowing them to succeed while being rude. Don't be bullied. Return to reason and trust your common sense.
But you don't have to get defensive. If your teenager has been abusive to you, you can quietly and courteously say...
If you are rude to the suppliers, you shouldn't expect new supplies. You have been rude to me,

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